Parenting Tip For Toddler Tantrums

If you’re having a hard time with disciplining your child, you might not need a complete parenting course. With just a few well selected words, expressed lovingly could start to bring your “terrible two year old child” back to a “terrific toddler.”

Here are useful Parenting Tips for Toddler Tantrums

1. Speak in a quiet, adult voice and with an eye-contact

When speaking with your child, do so like you really mean it! That does not mean yelling. You child wants to be communicated lovingly and directly even he is only two, three, or five years old.

2. Don’t draw-out nag your child; just try one word reminder

Instead of saying, “How many times do I have to tell you to place your dirty clothes in the laundry basket? That is not a difficult thing to do!” Just a simple word, “Clothes,” is enough to remind the child what needs to be done without the rhetorical questioning.

3. Avoid negative words such as “Quit…”, “Stop…”, and “Don’t…”

Studies have shown that all of us are inclined to “hearing” just the end of such words. So whenever we say, “Stop mocking!”, the brain hears, “mocking!” You yourself could see how this works. If you hear, “don’t think of a red elephant!” your brain first has to visualize what it should not be thinking of!

Phrase what you wanted to say in the positive way like “Please let’s not be too much noisy inside the house”, “Play nicely.” or “Use quiet steps.”

4. Offer your child choices, but make sure to choose your choices intelligently! If you say, “Why don’t you want to eat?” you do not really need to answer the “why.” What you want is our child’s behavior. Instead, “after you eat your meal, let us brush your teeth.”

5. Change the focus!

I actually don’t like this kind of communication since it felt like tricking my children. However, if your toddler is disintegrating into his tantrums, you can best calm the situation by diverting his mind. “I want that toy!” and started to lay down on the floor crying became giggles with a simple attention diverted, tantrum avoided like “Hey! look at that mascot!” See how your kids too naturally change their moods in the blink of an eye.

6. Communicating with your child could be one of the best things you did out of your whole day, and
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the most worthwhile parts of parenthood. By making use of some simple parenting techniques that use advanced communication methods, you could get your child back to enjoying smooth communication and good behavior.

Always remember you are the adult. In many situations, we, as adults, are encountering the shame of our children, as much as possible; we want to take that out on our child. Between you and your child, remember YOU ARE THE GROWN UP! Once you disregard that and begin shouting at your child, you’re a looser. Even though you don’t follow the request of your child, he/ she wins when you throw back your tantrum.

By: Lara Nadezda

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How To Treat Teething Babies Holistically

Teething babies can have a variety of symptoms, from drooling, sore gums (which is often relieved by chomping on something), red cheeks through to irritability and pain.

It’s not really surprising, as cutting teeth can be very painful. Normal treatment is to dull the pain with pain killers or alcohol, but this isn’t a satisfactory solution for the growing number of parents concerned about the future health of their child.

How can you help teething babies on a more natural, a more holistic level?

The best and fastest way, one without any side effects or future problems, that I know of is homeopathy.

Homeopathy works by improving the immune system of the patient, so they can cure themselves.

And it’s no different with babies.

Teething comes as a whole package, which is unique to your baby. It means that your baby’s immune system is not healthy enough for a self cure to happen. This is not surprising as babies haven’t yet developed an immune system, let alone a healthy one.

You can support this creation by using homeopathic medicines for each ailment your baby gets.

So, getting back to the present problem, take into consideration all the signs and symptoms that your baby is exhibiting, which are unusual during this growth phase. When you can match those unique symptoms to a homeopathic medicine, then you can rest assured that it will be effective.

If you give a homeopathic medicine which doesn’t fir the symptom picture, then no good is likely to occur. But no harm will either. Just nothing will happen.

One of the most common and most effective homeopathic medicine for any growth phase, including the teething phase, is Calcarea carbonica (Calc carb). But your child’s symptoms need to match at least three of those of the medicine, to achieve good results.

The typical symptoms of Calc carb include:

problems during a growth phase, or slow growth (eg teething, a rash)
craves eggs, especially boiled
constipated, but unaffected by it
sweat smells sour
sweats mainly at the hairline or back of the head
easily frightened (eg the dark, monsters, animals, heights)
is normally plump or pl
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suffers in the cold or wet

The homeopathic treatment of teething babies will only improve their overall health, supporting the creation of a healthy immune system.

By: Madeleine Innocent

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Five Scary Trends Parents Must Face

Depression. Self-centeredness. Early peer pressure. Stressed out kids. Materialism. These are five scary trends that Michele Borba, author of “The BIG Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries” uncovered in researching her book.

Many parents, however, are unaware of these five trends which can cause their child problems now and later in life. Toni Schutta, host of the radio show “Real Parents. Real Solutions.” interviewed Borba on Oct. 28 and is sharing the information so more parents can be made aware of these trends and take steps to make changes.

Q. Let’s talk about Scary Trend #1: the early peer pressure our kids are facing to participate in harmful activities like sex, drugs, alcohol, cigarette use and shoplifting. Please share some practical steps that parents must take to prepare their kids to face these challenges.

A. First, find the “hot spot” problem for your child. In 5th grade it’s shoplifting and a peer pushing a child into it. One in two kids will shoplift. In 4th grade some kids have their first drink and where is that happening? In your home when you’re not home. Sex. The first sexual encounter is in your home on a weekend when you’re not there. For teens, the number one issue is peer pressure. So,

1. Review your rules so your child knows your values.
2. Make sure your child uses good eye contact and strong body language. Rehearse it.
3. Use a strong voice.
4. Develop come back-up lines. For instance if a peer wants your child to smoke, he can say “My parents would kill me.” Or “My grandpa died of cancer. I don’t want to.”

Rehearse these over and over so your child becomes more confident, assertive and actually comes to believe it.

Q. Scary Trend #2 is “Generation Stress” What are the symptoms?

A. For little kids look at sleeping and eating habits. Look for nightmares, clinginess, not doing homework. Lack of focus is a key one. For tweens, sweaty palms, reoccurring headaches and frequent colds or illnesses. Stress affects the immune system.

Q. What are some concrete solutions for stressed-out kids?

A. Step 1 is to identify how your child exhibits stress. Step 2 is to reduce the causes of stress that you can. If CNN bothers your child
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, don’t watch it. If your child is overscheduled, reduce one activity. Step 3 is to develop new habits for change. Teach your child how to cope with the stress using yoga and deep breathing.

Q. Scary Trend # 3 is Self Centeredness. You state that we’ve turned kids into “narcissists.” How can you tell if your child is “narcisstic?”

A. Sign #1 for a school-aged child is everything is about “me.” Sign #2 is can your child handle the glorious word “no?” Three is “gimme.” Your child always wants more. Four is your child is never really satisfied. 5. He’s always thinking “How will this play out for me?”

Q. What do you need to do to turn this around in your child if it’s a problem?
1. Identify it. 1. Switch your response. Start saying “no” and mean it. The average child whines 9 times and we give in. Know which buttons your child is pushing. 2. Start finding opportunities for your child to give to others. Start by modeling it yourself and then start expecting it of your children.

Q. Scary Trend #4 is Depression. Your research shows that 1 in 12 teens will suffer from a bout of depression. What are the symptoms and solutions?

A. There’s been a 114% increase in depression in tweens in the last 2 years and children as young as 3 are being diagnosed with depression. The line between sadness and depression is this. With sadness you can zap your way out of it. Take your child’s normal behavior and use the “too” factor. “Is the sadness lasting too long? Has it lasted every day for two weeks? Then it’s a red flag. Is it affecting too many areas of her life like soccer or friendships? Also, it’s too intense. Any of these are a sign that something’s going on with your child. It’s imperative that you get it checked out because your child is not going to be able to just walk away by themselves and fix it and if you can catch the first episode, your child will be much better off.

Q. Let’s talk solutions.

A. #1- Talk to others who know your child well to get some perspective. #2- Pick up the phone and call your pediatrician and then get some really good counseling. Ideally, find a child psychiatrist and child psychologist trained to work with children. You cannot turn this around on your own.

Q. Scary Trend #5 is Materialism. Does it boil down to giving your kids too much stuff and not requiring that they work hard to earn the stuff?

A. Yes. Even in the midst of the recession kids are still consuming more which means that they are now putting more of an emphasis on what I have versus who I am. Two out of three moms admit that their 3-year-old is calling for things by a brand name. The materialistic child is less appreciative for what he has. The more gratitude your child has, the higher the happiness quotient. The less materialistic, the higher self-esteem of the child.

Q. What do we need to do differently?

A. A University of Minnesota study found that the best way to turn this around it to compliment your daughter on inside traits like kindness or being respectful. The more the praise for inside traits, the more the materialism went down and the more the self-esteem went up.

To listen to the complete interview you can go to: http://www.modavox.com/voiceamerica/vepisode.aspx?aid=42037

By: Toni Schutta

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The ‘normal’ Kid: Raising Siblings Of Children With Autism Spectrum Disorder

As a mother of two sons, one with moderate-to-severe autism and one without, I know firsthand how challenging it can be to juggle the needs of all the members of a family when one of the members has special needs. Raising a child with autism is not an easy endeavor- getting the right services for your child, working to improve developmental skills, and dealing with the daily challenges unique to autism can be as much work (if not more!) than a full-time job. This article addresses the challenges unique to raising siblings of children with autism: children whose needs can sometimes be overshadowed by the more obvious ones of their special sibling. I am not a psychologist or a doctor- just a mom who has made a fair share of mistakes, and picked up some pointers along the way. I hope these suggestions are helpful to you and your family.

Spend one-on-one time. Spending time alone with your child is a great way to make sure he or she doesn’t get lost in the shuffle of the daily grind, or ground down by all-autism, all the time. My son and I started a vegetable garden together, which provides peaceful quality time outdoors for both of us. The tasty tomatoes, peppers, and carrots are a nice bonus too! We also bake together, once in a while, just the two of us, and he is my official grocery shopping helper. Little activities like that can add up to quite a bit of time during the week, and a stronger relationship.

Teach your child about autism. Depending on the age of the child, there are a variety of media resources to help children understand autism, including books and movies. Teach your child the word, and what it means for his or her sibling. For example, I began very simply with my youngest son when he was 3 years old, and told him that his brother had autism, and had a hard time using his words. As he’s grown older, I’ve explained more, about impulse control, meltdowns, and food aversions – in kid-speak, of course! This way, these are just simply facts that he has in his mental file about his brother, alongside such useful information as ‘has brown hair’ and ‘loves trucks’.

Acknowledge his/her feelings. Some days you probably hate autism too, and get really frustrated by your child’s behavior. Mayb
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e you were embarrassed by the meltdown in the grocery store too. You grieve for the child you might have had. Your child may grieve for the brother or sister he/she might have had too. Acknowledge these feelings, without dwelling on them. Make it safe for your child to express his/her feelings without repercussions. Burying feelings isn’t healthy for anyone, including children, and in this case, it may lead towards resentment and guilt towards his or her sibling.

Make sure your rules are fair. In my house, the rule is that everyone does what he or she can do. Autism is not allowed to be an excuse. Even though my eight year old son has moderate-to-severe autism, there are still several chores he can do, with supervision and assistance. It is good for your child with autism to learn responsibility and self-help skills. It is also good for demonstrating inclusion principles right in your own home. If your child without autism has chores, and the child with autism has no chores, resentment may also build, and that is something that should be avoided wherever possible.

Don’t forget the positive praise. Praise your children. Frequently. If it doesn’t come easily, try using statements like ‘I like how youŒ, or ‘It makes me so happy when youŒ. Children need to hear more praise than criticism in order to develop a positive self-image. Cultivate the habit.

Have reasonable expectations. No child is going to behave perfectly. Just because your child doesn’t have autism, doesn’t mean he or she is going to be an angel. My husband and I have made that mistake, and were grateful when another mom pointed it out (discreetly) to us. Kids are going to be kids. Making mistakes, misbehaving, and testing boundaries are all part of the learning process. Are you perfect? I know I’m not, and I don’t expect either one of my kids to be either.

Don’t let autism rule your family’s life. A diagnosis of autism can often mean lots of therapies and treatments and appointments with specialists. My son receives speech therapy and occupational therapy twice a week after school (on alternating days), for an hour each session. Parents who are following ABA protocols can spend even more time! It’s time consuming but necessary. However, I refuse to schedule any therapies on Friday or over the weekend. That’s our family time. I also arrange to have my younger son participate in an after school program he really enjoys, so that he doesn’t have to sit in a clinic for an hour waiting for his brother. That way, therapy is accomplished, and no one (with the possible exception of me) is bored in a waiting room.

Keep your marriage strong. One of the first things I read about when I was researching my newly-diagnosed little boy’s disorder was the shockingly high divorce rates among parents of special needs children. My husband and I agreed that we liked being married to each other, and wanted to keep it that way. Some of the strategies we’ve pursued in keeping our marriage strong is keeping a date night, at least twice a month. If you don’t have reliable respite care (parents or friends, for example), contact your local social services agency. Many social services agencies maintain resource lists for consumers, including lists of agencies which provide respite care. Your marriage is worth the effort and the expense! Other valuable insights I have gained through this journey is the importance of being patient and gentle with one another, and taking care of one another. You are partners on this parenting journey together, and the easiest, most loving way to complete the journey is by staying happily married. Both kids need that from you.

Keep your stress level as low as you can. It’s not as impossible as it sounds! I understand exactly how difficult that can be. Raising children is a juggling act; raising a family with autistic and non-autistic children is a juggling act on a unicycle. That is why it is so crucial to find personal time to take care of yourself. I take care of my garden, medita
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te daily, take bubble baths with a good mystery or romance novel once or twice a week, and get on the elliptical to exercise two to three times a week (whether I want to or not). These are things which keep me sane, and refresh my spirit. My husband plays video games and has poker night with the guys. It’s finding what works for you. It’s not selfish to find time for yourself. Nourishing your mind, body and spirit helps you to be strong for your family.

I hope that following these suggestions will help as you raise your ‘mixed’ family.

By: Mariann Bell

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Mariann Bell is a mother of two (one with autism), wife, special education teacher, and feng shui, interior design and meditation devotee. In her spare time, she enjoys gardening, cooking, reading, and writing. Visit her store, www.IndoorFountainsForLess.com for quality indoor fountains at bargain prices!

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Meta Patterns & Genius – A Simple Game To Increase A Child’s Intelligence

As a side effect in my life long study of human excellence, genius and creativity, I have discovered ONE particular thinking pattern that makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE in:

- understanding the world
- problem solving
- innovation and creativity
- and even inner harmony.

This is a meta filter which people LEARN, they are NOT born “that way”, and it is a really profound one that makes the difference between a great thinker and someone who isn’t, at the end of the day.

This filter is about whether a person sorts all manner of incoming information by difference, or by similarity.

Fascinatingly, across the board, children’s games are games of “difference”.

Spot the difference; Sesame Street’s “One of these things just doesn’t belong here …”; and many, MANY other strategies across the board and all the educational modalities reward this “sorting by differences”.

The side effect of sorting by difference is to compartmentalise the world into ever smaller blocks of detail; this leads directly, and I mean directly, in completely logical cause and effect fashion to losing the ability to “see the big picture”.

In neuro-linguistic terms, the movement from a normal sized picture into more and more detail is called “chunking down”.

This is when we stop looking at the car, and instead focus on a single wheel, and then the hub of a single wheel, and the the screw with the hub, and then a single turn of the screw, and deeper and deeper into the details of the thing, until we’re in quarks and neutrons territory and no-one knows or cares that we ever started with a bright red motor car.

Now, there is nothing wrong per se with “chunking down” into details of a thing; where it becomes immensely DANGEROUS for a person, and for many people in their collective societies, is when EVERYBODY thinks like that – apart from a few “visionaries” that is, of course, who will become the leaders.

Aha!

A general MUST be able to see the bigger picture; a king must; an industry leader; ANY leader MUST have the magical ability to zoom out and perceive huge arrays of objects IN PERSPECTIVE in order to discover the meta patterns that make up the WHOLE situat
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ion.

In the education systems the world over, children are not raised and trained to become LEADERS. That explains why the “downchunk movement” into detail is being taught and fostered at every turn; people who are only comfortable with “small chunk thinking” and will turn immediately to chunking down EVEN FURTHER in moments of crisis, because that movement is THE ONLY movement they know and are familiar with, make great soldiers, factory workers, low level clerics – great ants, in other words.

But the fact is that to “think in the opposite direction”, to zoom out to see the bigger picture, is a simple as a child’s game – we just need to reverse it.

Instead of playing endless versions of, “What’s the difference?” we start asking instead, “What’s the SAME?”

It is then the meta patterns become revealed and the MOVEMENT OUT towards the “bigger picture” begins to occur naturally.

This is such a simple, and yet such an INCREDIBLE thing.

Consider this.

We may ask, “What’s THE SAME about a black boy, and a white boy?” and the answer is ready and clear – “They’re both boys!”

We may ask, “What’s the SAME about a little boy and a little girl?” and we may receive the answer, “They’re both human beings.”

EVERY person needs to be able to ZOOM BOTH WAYS – into the details, and out to biggest possible picture, and back again.

EVERY person CAN do that – it is just a question of encouraging the neglected and secret “bigger picture” movement from an early age, and THAT in itself is as simple as to say to a child, “What’s THE SAME about your teddy and your doll?”

For any adult who seeks to really re-connect to their own creativity and POWER TO DETECT THE META PATTERNS of our lives and our environments, it is the same game.

“What’s THE SAME about the last five movies you’ve watched? What’s THE SAME about the last 15 successful advertising campaigns the competitors ran? What’s THE SAME about me and other people?”

There is a structural re-connection that is astonishing which occurs so naturally as a by product of asking that simple question, which is indeed profound, and profoundly healing.

I do believe that the answers lie in the meta patterns, and in our ability to PERCEIVE THEM CLEARLY.

If we get, as individuals AND as societies, those meta patterns right, then the details will NATURALLY take care of themselves – that’s the way it works.

“They” say that the devil lies in the detail – it could well be so that salvation can be found indeed, in all of us starting to pay much more attention to “the bigger picture”.

By: Silvia Hartmann

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Does My Child Need Therapy?

Today, it is hard to determine if you should be providing child therapy to your child. It is very difficult for parents to think that there may be a problem with their baby. After all, up until the teen years hit, they allowed you to take care of them. They told you when things were not okay. You dealt with their needs throughout their life. But, now, you need to wonder if you should be providing teen therapy for them. To really know if your child needs help, ask yourself these questions.

What has changed about my child that has me concerned? If you are worried about their physical health, there is no doubt that you would recommend that they work with a doctor, right? So, if it is their emotional health that may be a problem, you need to get them the teen therapy they need.
Does your child have problems with eating, socializing or does he have behavior problems at school? Acting out in any of these areas is not normal. If your child is having problems, especially at school, child therapy can help.

Do you know that your child is drinking, doing drugs, engaging in sex, or is depressed? If you know this is the case, there is no doubt you need to get them into teen therapy before these circumstances ruin their lives. If you know about it, then it has probably gotten far out of hand.
Do you want them to have the best ability to make the right choices? Even if you do not feel your child has any problems, teen therapy can help to encourage things to stay that way.

Child therapy can be a blessing for a child. Even if they hate it and do not want to go, it can help them to realize that you care about their well being. It will help them to know what to do and how to react in their lives. Hearing from another adult what is right or wrong helps to strengthen their understanding and their belief in you. Teen therapy should not be a punishment then, but a way to get your child to safety.

By: Keith Allen

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